I’ll start off by saying Happy Valentine’s day! Whether you’re spending today with your partner, best friends, family or colleagues I hope you have a fab day. This post is about love in all its forms and why I think it’s important to show your loved ones how much they mean to you everyday rather than just once a year on Valentine’s day.
Whilst I am a romantic person I do find the whole idea of Valentine’s day a bit odd. It’s not because it makes me feel lonely or depressed but because I find it odd that each year the retailers dictate to us that we should make huge bold gestures to show our partner that we love them on a set day. We are overwhelmed with slushy adverts at the beginning of February making us feel both envious & anxious at the same time. Why put so much pressure on one day to be the perfect romance? I believe that everyone should show all of their loved ones how much they are loved on a regular basis. This doesn’t have to be telling somebody that you love them (but I’m sure they’d appreciate it!) We can show love in many different ways & sometimes a really small act is all that is needed.
The actions you take to show people that you love them will be different for every individual & I’m sure you can come up with some great ideas for specific people but I thought I’d make a list of ideas to give you inspiration:
- Write a letter or card telling that person how much you care or thanking them for something they did. You could even make the card yourself to give it an extra personal touch.
- Buy them a gift. People love receiving random gifts (I know I do!)
- Take them out for a meal or you could invite them over for a home cooked meal.
- Paint or draw them a picture. This could be of their favourite place or maybe their pet
- Offer to fix or mend something
- Pick up the phone and have a proper chat. Set aside enough time to have a really good catch up. A lot can happen in a week, month or longer.
- Pass on a favourite book for somebody else to enjoy
- Go and see them! Nothing beats seeing someone face to face
- If you’re good with words you could write them a poem, song or story.
- Help out with chores without being asked. I’m sure all Mums would appreciate this!
- Give a compliment. This really can make somebody’s day
- Make a special packed lunch for somebody going to work or out on a day trip. Personalise the selection with some of their favourite foods
- Go for a walk with them in a favourite place
- Have a picnic together. A picnic at night under the stars can be really romantic (just remember to wrap up warm!)
- Offer to go with them to a hospital appointment or something they are feeling nervous about.
- Ask how their day was. Ask how they are REALLY feeling and give them time to talk about their feelings
- hold hands
- Write a list of reasons why they are amazing
As well as showing loved ones how much you value them you could also do something nice for a stranger. Something as simple as holding the door open can mean a great deal. There is too much sadness in the world already so let’s try to spread more love and happiness. “Be the change you want to see in the world” and “Throw kindness around like confetti” are two of my favourite quotes.
So just to sum up, I don’t dislike Valentine’s day at all. I think it’s great if it gets people to express their love when they normally wouldn’t but I do think we should all make an effort to show our love more and not just to our partners but to everyone that we care about. After all life is short & you can’t tell them once they’ve gone.
Feliz día de los enamorados (that’s Happy Valentine’s day in Spanish. It never hurts to learn something new!)