I absolutely adore going shopping and if you’re anything like me then you do too. I enjoy browsing & love picking up new pieces if I find something I love. However I always find shopping can be stressful when you’re looking for something specific like jeans or a dress for a wedding. Occasion wear shopping can be extremely tricky for us ladies as most of us have body hang ups and it can be very hard to find an outfit that highlights the good bits but also conceals the bits we aren’t so comfortable with.
My boyfriend’s cousin is getting married in June and as my bust & hips have grown the dress I planned on wearing is no longer an option. We needed to go shopping for a dress for me & a shirt and shoes for him. I’d been browsing online Going shopping on this particular day wasn’t really the best for me as I was feeling a bit down about my body. I’m tall and fairly busty with big hips and a big bum so clothes aren’t really designed for my shape at all. I find dresses are generally too short plus too small on the bust & hip area. I always end up having to buy a bigger size because of my bust and hips but then it’s too big in other places. I’m sure I’m not the only person to have this problem, surely? Clothing in the large majority of high street shops seems to be designed for short & very skinny people which really frustrates me as we come in all shapes and sizes. I know there are some online fashion retailers that cater to curvier shapes but I’d love to be able to get a good fit in all my favourite high street shops too. Sorry for having a little rant!
We went to an outlet shopping centre called Clarks Village in my home county Somerset. Clarks Village has a good range of shops including: Hobbs, Coast, Phase Eight, Joules, Sugarhill Boutique, Molton Brown, Marks & Spencer, Next, Crew, The Body Shop, Osprey, Radley, Thorntons, Jeff Banks, Yumi and of course Clarks among others. We browsed around a few shops and Jon found a perfect shirt & shoes very quickly. I found lots of dresses I liked but nothing had the wow factor when it was on me. I was feeling frustrated at the lack of suitable dresses found and very self concious because those huge mirrors in changing rooms with their harsh lighting just seem to magnify every little flaw. We decided to try Phase Eight as I know they specialise in occasion wear. I was thrilled to find a beautiful midi length dress in there that fitted well & looked nice on. I feel a bit like a Disney Princess in this dress so that’s a very good sign! I’ve learnt that the key to feeling good in any outfit is to wear clothes that flatter your shape & work with your curves rather than battling against them. Don’t be afraid to buy a bigger size if it looks better on you and I’ll be honest I have been guilty of worrying too much about what size the label says but nobody else sees the label or what size it is. I’m not going to post a photo of this dress until I actually wear it to the wedding in June but these pictures in this post are of the outfit I wore to the last wedding I attended (excuse my pale legs, they don’t get out much!) My dress in the pictures is from Coast, my cardi & black wedges are both from Primark and the mint green clutch bag is from Accessorize.
As well as sorting out an outfit there’s also hair, makeup, bodycare and accessories that we need to consider. As you can see in the pictures I had my hair up for the last wedding and I left it curly as this is my natural style. My hair will be curly again for the wedding in June because my hair takes hours to straighten plus I don’t even own any hair straighteners anymore. I’ll decide on the day if I have it up or down as it depends on if my hair decides to behave. I always tend to keep my makeup very natural apart from the odd occasion when I really go to town on the eye shadow & I’ll keep my makeup fairly low key again for the next wedding. I’ll most probably be wearing a light/medium coverage foundation with contoured cheeks & highlighted cheek bones plus lashings of black mascara with a nude daytime smoky eye. I will need to get my eyebrows in order too as they’re quite thick and a bit unruly. A few days before the wedding I will exfoliate my body with a scrub and body brush. I’ll need to pay special attention to my legs and arms as these will be on show. I will probably also use a bit of tan on those milky white legs and arms of mine. I’ll use fake tan a few days before the wedding so that if it goes wrong or looks streaky then I’ve got time to redo it.
I’m a bit nervous about going to this wedding as I will most likely be the only disabled person there & some people can be unkind/judgemental. I also worry about having to stand for a long time as my back and legs are very weak & painful. I always get worried about most social situations & I won’t know most of the people there. I’m trying not to think about it too much as I’ll only make myself worry more. I worry about far too much already & I have much bigger problems to worry about. I’m sure I’ll be fine on the day & have a good time just as I did last time.
Are you off to a wedding or special occasion this year? Let me know in the comments 🙂 Thanks for reading!